Can a person oppose equal rights for gay people and not be, in some fundamental way, a homophobe? The answer seems to me to be a pretty obvious no."Homophobe"? Like in germaphobe? It is fraudulent to suggest that someone opposed to gay marriage is, for that reason alone, suffering from an irrational fear of homosexuals. Stern's argument is just a hussied-up ad hominim attack, i.e., "you must be crazy if you disagree with gay marriage."
He also says:
It’s a harmful belief with real-world consequences, and it has contributed immeasurable pain, sorrow, and suffering to the lives of gay people throughout history. To oppose gay marriage is to help prevent loving couples from visiting each other in the hospital, from raising a child together, from enjoying the most basic facets of a fulfilling life.That is pretty amazing--that it has caused harm throughout history--since the idea of gay marriage is so new. The ancient Greeks extolled homosexual love, but I doubt they whined about not being able to marry a gay lover. In fact, even with their proclivities, the ancients recognized an essential difference between a "family" and "lovers."
Stern's comments about not being able to enjoy "the most basic facets of a fulfilling life" without being married is also laughable. I have grown up hearing from the liberal media how unnecessary is marriage. In 2010, Time magazine published an article on changing attitudes toward marriage that concluded:
What we [Time and Pew] found is that marriage, whatever its social, spiritual or symbolic appeal, is in purely practical terms just not as necessary as it used to be. Neither men nor women need to be married to have sex or companionship or professional success or respect or even children....This Psychology Today article notes:
At the vanguard of this shifting view are young adults. "It's just a piece of paper," we often heard in our interviews with young people. "I don't need a piece of paper to tell me my relationship matters."So why, to liberals, is marriage unimportant in a heterosexual relationship, but so important in a homosexual relationship?